Let's face it we all have days where we think "I wish I could go back to being a kid and have nothing to worry about" right?
The truth is there are some days where we as adults think 'Why is this so hard?'
I've spent the last week trying to fix problems with my Podcasts and Website so they work together and I don't seem to be making progress. I am starting to get sick (because between the change in weather and stress this just seems to happen), that makes me even less inclined to bother with anything hard or stressful.
We don't get summer vacation where we can take 2 months off school and relax anymore. Weekends are filled with all the tasks we don't have time for during the week and no one gets a break from the real, everyday stuff that has to get done. Even as an adult, working a normal 9-5 job, the most you get is a couple weeks
off a year to take holidays with your family. This of course never feels like a holiday because you do things with your kids or take them places to visit family and friends. Forget about any time off if you are starting a business or running a business of your own.
My point here is, how many of us are actually taking time now that we are adults to sleep in, to spend a day in bed reading? How often do you really spend a whole day doing nothing without beating yourself up over it or trying to fit tasks like laundry and dishes in while catching on up your favourite
We need to get better at finding a balance between taking days for our mental health and doing all of our 'Adulting' tasks.
I think we should start taking one day a week and devoting it just to our own mental health. If taking your kids to the park and watching them play or playing with them at the park is the thing that makes you feel less stress and helps you remember why life is so great, do it! If a bubble bath every Tuesday helps you get through the week without feeling overwhelmed, do it! If you love to read but never have time anymore, take one day and do nothing but read a new book.
I talk about Self Care a lot because I think it is important but "Self Care" has become this buzzword that people hate to hear now. It's sad because there is so much more to self-care then just eating right and sleeping enough. We should also be talking about taking care of our mental health and we aren't. We should be talking about and teaching people how to refuel mentally, how to give themselves a mental break when needed.
This of course requires you to know when those breaks are needed before you reach what people call "the end of your mental rope" but I think even when we aren't aware we are close to our breaking points we could still benefit from this focus on our own personal mental health so here are few things you can start to do today to help you with your mental health.
1. Take 60 seconds to yourself and just focus on how you are breathing. This may sound silly but this gives you a minute to mentally refocus. By changing your breathing you change your stress level and increase your mental ability to let go of what is causing tension in your body.
2. Start putting your phone down 30 minutes before you go to bed. Scientific studies show that watching tv and looking at computer screens can trick your brain and make it harder for you to fall asleep and stay asleep at night.
3. Write down one thing every day that you are grateful for. Do this for a week, a month, a year. At the end of that time or on days when you are having a hard time getting through the hard stuff, pull out some of those and remind yourself of the things that are good or great in your life.
Being an adult is hard. We have a lot of different balls to juggle daily. It can sometimes be overwhelming, so remember that you are allowed to not be okay all the time. You are allowed to take time for you. You are allowed to ask for help when you need it.
Give yourself a break and take care of yourself so you can take care of the others in your life too.