We live in this filtered, staged, photo-shopped to perfection world now and I sometimes have a hard time processing that. I've talked before in this blog about how I feel this has created an unrealistic expectation of what life should be. I made a promise to this community that I would not just whitewash life on this blog. I said we would talk about the messy and un-filtered aspects of life to remind everyone that it is okay to be human. It is okay to be a mess. It is okay to not be okay. So today I want to talk about exactly that because I came home from Florida on Tuesday afternoon at 1 pm and I haven't done a thing until today.
I hadn't showered, I hadn't unpacked or done the dishes. I haven't had the energy or ambition to lift a finger. I've slept, I've eaten, I've even tossed on a sundress and gone outside to try and see the sunset and the sunrise but that is the biggest accomplishment I can claim for the last few days.
This isn't depression or anything I know I need to be worried about because I'm self aware enough to know that after I travel (especially when my travel involves long periods of time spent with groups of people) I need time to recover. Travel takes a lot out of me, mostly because I choose to travel in the least expensive way possible which normally means long layovers and 5am flights. I don't ever sleep well the day before I fly anywhere and I always have a hard time sleeping on flights, no matter how long the flight is.
I spoke to a few people this past weekend who told me they're the same way. They need time to recover after travel or large events and that sometimes their friends and family don't understand why. So I wanted to take a minute to say to all the people like me, it is okay if you need time. If your dishes don't get done, if laundry piles up, if you take a few days to yourself for your own mental health, IT IS OKAY.
For the people who don't understand why others may need alone time or you worry when they say they do, know that we are okay. If you think we aren't okay, please ask us, talk to us about it and we would be happy to do our best to explain it to you. This will not only help to ease your mind but also gives those of us who need the alone time, a chance to explain to you that it doesn't mean we don't love you or care about you. It just means we are putting our mental health first.
There are a lot of different people in the world. Some are introverts, some are extroverts and some may not know what they are but they are trying to figure it out. All of those people recharge in different ways. Some people may not understand why you need to recharge the way you do and that is okay. You do what you need to do for your own mental health and you let other people do what they need too.
Be okay with the mess because the truth is, we all have dishes that don't get done and laundry that piles up. We all have days where we don't accomplish anything and that is okay.